There are the people in your life who you couldn’t imagine living without, they’ve been there that long, those friends who have slowly turned into family. There are those people who enter your life in the most unexpected ways possible and just happen to be there with you through some of the hardest times in your life. There are those people who you became friends with at some random point in your life and for a couple of months or even years they were some of your closest friends, you poured out your heart to them and they to you, but now it’s been a while and you haven’t heard from them.
We all live such different lives, yet our lives are all so similar. We all surround ourselves with people whom we love, whom we have come to call our friends and even our family, sometimes they are great, sometimes not so much. No matter what stage of life we are in we always have people around us, whether it's one person whom we call our best friend or 10 people with whom we practically do life with.
It baffles me regularly when I think about how God so timely has put certain people in my life. At specific moments where he knew what would be happening in my life, what I would be facing, what they would be going through, and a lot of times certain people have come into my life before some of the hardest times I’ve had to face. Times where they have been one of my biggest support systems, while also dealing with their own life.
And then there are times where some of the closest friends you've had, maybe even someone you've called a best friend becomes so distant that you don't even know what to say or do. You were once the type of friends who would call each other anytime something exciting happened in either of your lives, but now they won't even pick up the phone to call you and see how you are. You were once the type of friends whom you thought would get through anything together, but now you don't even know how to be present in each other's lives. Sometimes it's a situation that drives friendships apart, sometimes it is physical distance that forces people apart, no matter what the situation is it never gets easier. I feel like it's so similar, sometimes even worse than a breakup, in the way that it hurts so much you even feel it physically.
I know how much it hurts, I've been there before. Sometimes you try so hard to be there for people and it's almost like it doesn't make a difference, sometimes you are at people's beck and call but yet when you are the one struggling they don't even check up on you.
Maybe you are that friend, the one that takes their friends for granted, the one that doesn't give back the same time, energy, and love that someone who goes above and beyond for you gives you when you need it. I've learned the hard way that forcing people to stay in your life who no longer wants to be there isn't worth it, we deserve the same love and care that we give to others.
Let this be a challenge for friends who take their friends for granted, don't be that person. Love and care for the people who support you through so much. If you feel like you are drifting away from people, let them drift, let them go. Don't hold on to people who you know don't have your best interest at heart and are ultimately toxic. You are so deserving of having genuine friends in your life, friends who love you and will be there for you, and whom you can love and support just the same. Those people will come, it may take a while, but God will bring those people into your life, and when he does you'll see how beautiful the friendships God brings together are.
- Sarai
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